A client of mine asked the other day “How do I say No to people?”
My answer? “Saying No is not a skill to learn; it is a permission to give.”
There isn’t anyone out there who doesn’t know how to say No. You see, we tend to say No to ourselves all the time. So we actually have the skill.
We just don’t give ourselves permission to say No to someone else.
We don’t want to be rude, do we?
And we really do like to be needed, don’t we?
So we say Yes to outside demands on our time and energy.
Sooner or later, if not already, you will run out of those resources. And like it or not, they are NOT renewable.
When the time is gone, it is gone. And while you might get some energy back, it will never be as powerful as before.
What is it going to take for you to give yourself permission to say No to someone’s request of you?
Action – Here’s a little challenge. Today, in a situation where you would normally say Yes to someone’s request, choose to say No. Just once today. See what happens.
By doing this every day, your comfort level, and then permission level, for saying No to others will grow.
(What did you choose to say No to today? Please leave your reply in the comment box)