I have come to understand 2 primary lessons in life.
The first is not to do what you don’t want to do. The second is to do what you want to do.
Surprisingly, the choices are separate from each other and the first is easier than the second.
Most folks will actually allow themselves to stop doing things they don’t want to do. Some may kick and scream about it though – using that swear word “should” or something similar like “have to” or “no choice”. But generally people come to understand the wisdom of not doing things they really don’t want to do.
It’s the second lesson – about doing things you really want to do – that has many folks stymied.
I’m not referring to things that may be illegal or immoral. I’m talking about habits, behaviors or activities you really want to do, but don’t give yourself permission for. Maybe you want to return to education but use the excuse of lack of money to stop you. Perhaps you want to take a year or two off to travel, but – oh no – you can’t do that, can you?! And what would the neighbors say if they knew you put aside your MBA to become an artist?
While most of us will stop activities we don’t want, few will continue on to pursue the things that will give them the most pleasure. They only go half way.
Action – What things do you need to stop doing and what do you need to start doing? Make your lists and then put together a plan of action.
You must fulfill your own desires, so get moving!