“I feel successful when my want-tos outweigh my have-tos.” My definition of success is so important to me that it is the foundation of my everyday actions and my long-term planning.
A lot of people say to me though “well, Nancy, there are many things that we just have to do – at work and at home.”
Um, no, generally speaking, there are not!
Sure, there are things that are unpleasant or that we would rather not do. But if you use the phrase “have to” to describe more than 10% of your activities, you need to make some changes!
Action – First, delegate or drop all the “have to” activities you can. Look hard for them. Second, for those things that are left over, do whatever is necessary to switch your attitude to more of a “want-to”.
The truth is – you can live the way you want, not the way you have to!
Its funny how changing the perception and description of things can make them easier to do. I have started a low carb eating way of life style, if I call it a diet, I will not stick to it. By saying I want to eat this way, which I did, I have had success sticking to it and I am not tempted to go back to my old ways. This is wonderful advice that has many applications, not all are work related. 🙂
That’s a great example, Virginia! And well done you for making that switch!
Great advice. I see this as setting priorities and spending most of your time doing the things you enjoy…for fun AND for work. I’m continuously trying to omit those items that may seem important, until I start thinking about it, then making a conscious effort to re-prioritize. BUT, it’s a constant battle and I have to continuously make the adjustment. Not easy, but worthwhile.
I appreciate these “quick tips” every day or two.
It’s an ongoing thing, Tom. We are often led to believe there is a “destination” of productivity or effectiveness when in actual fact it is flowing and fluctuating, at home and at work.