Both my husband and I are good drivers. While our equality of skill behind the wheel has its advantages, it can also cause some friction, as many married couples know.
But one thing he and I are notoriously good at is complaining about all the other drivers on the road. Invariably, at some point during each trip, one of us will remark about the incompetence of some poor, probably innocent recipient of our judgments – “oh, look at that person – where did he learn how to drive?!” or “did you see her cut off that corner?!”
What’s interesting about this seemingly innocuous driving scenario is that the same thing plays out over and over again in different aspects of life. At work, at home, in business, in relationships.
We have little patience for perceived incompetence.
But, it is a natural law that each of us are highly skilled in some areas and poorly skilled in others. This bell-curve of ability is actually expected, even when we respond as if it’s not.
Action – Yes, incompetence can be frustrating but it should never be so overwhelming that it takes more than 1 second of your awareness. Don’t focus on what others cannot do well.
And remember, someone somewhere always notices your screw ups too! Let’s hope they are more compassionate towards you.