People often say they want to be ‘the best’ at a certain task or behavior. Well, I find that the best are NOT always the happiest but the happiest are usually the best!
Being the best at something often involves comparing ourselves to others. We make a lot of assumptions and judgments and can get wound up into a massive circle of outdoing others.
Then, when we do define ourselves as being the best at something, we fear getting knocked off our pedestal.
Does that sound like fun? Would this truly make you happy?
Action – Instead of buying into the competitive “I must be the best” game, focus your time, energy and attention on being happy. Do you even know what makes you happy?
What activities make you smile? What is going on with your family and friends when you feel happy? At the office, what are you telling yourself about your career or colleagues when you are happy? Who is the happy you?
Focus on happiness, which is self-made and available to you right now, instead of being the best, which is defined by others and fear driven.