Many women want to be more assertive. Unfortunately, that seems to be a far-off wish instead of the reality.
Action – There are several good books on assertiveness, but here are some quick tips.
- Use a flat but strong tone of voice. Sounding angry, being soft or hesitating will not convey an assertive stance.
- Make “I” statements instead of “you” phrases, such as “I think that” rather than “you should have…”
- Repeat your request as initially stated despite objections, so it might sound like this -“I understand the office is busy but I am not staying late after work tonight.”
- When in a decision-making situation, make choices for yourself. Don’t allow others to speak for you.
- And finally, do other activities in both your personal and professional life that build your self-esteem and confidence.
In the long run, being assertive helps you to create balance and calm.