“I can’t do it.”
I wish I had a dime for every time I’ve heard that phrase!
I have found that someone who “can’t do it” actually can – and the reason they say and think they can’t is because they don’t believe in their own abilities.
You’re where you are today because you DID do it! Because you had the confidence to believe in yourself. Because you’re capable of making things happen. Because “I can’t do it” wasn’t in your vocabulary at that point.
Action – The fastest way to stop the “I can’t’s” and to build up your confidence is to acknowledge how successful you are.
So, at the end of every day, write out 5 successes from that day.
Maybe you made a difficult call, finished a report, made someone laugh, spent time with your child, or cleaned up a drawer.
Silence the “I can’t’s” by showing yourself just how much “you can”.
It’s surprising how often “I can’t” becomes an automatic response – said without actual thought as to the possibilities. It’s good to pause and consider the idea that we can because mostly we can.
We can have what we want or we can have our reasons for not having what we want.
i think this is useful for building confidence.
We tend to focus on things we “can´t do”, big dreams that we find difficult to accomplish, instead of thinking about the little battles we win each and every day. We need to give those little successes the importance they have, and be proud of them.
Maybe it’s because of my military background, but I do not say or do not accept I can’t, there is always away, you have to improvise, adopt, overcome…get it done.
For sure we need to overcome the ´´I cant´s“ in our thoughts, to have professional and personal success!And most important: celebrate all of them, no matter they are big or small ones! They represent our achievements in life! Wonderful tip, Nancy!!!
The most important thing is to teach your children that the CAN, never let them even think, they can not….
Nancy, this thought for the day goes along with how rich you feel, if you feel rich in skills regardless of money, or rich in experience then you don’t think in the I Can’t mode,…..you know that you can do anything even if you have not done it before. Except for brain surgery 🙂
hehe, yes except brain surgery!
Love this one, Nancy! Will add this to my journaling!