People often change course away from a desired outcome because of fear. If we image that some aspect of the goal will be painful, we’ll self-sabotage our achievement.

You know what I mean. You start working toward a new goal, like a technique for saying ‘No’ to overwhelming requests of your time. The first few times you politely and firmly say No, everything goes great.

Then the next person gets a bit annoyed with you. Then another raises an eyebrow. You begin to imagine all sorts, like maybe people won’t like you now or someone will cause an embarrassing scene.

These imagined results frighten you, so you begin to sabotage your success, saying things like ‘its easier to do what they ask instead of explaining why I can’t’.

Sound familiar?

Action – So, if your imagination is hindering you, turn that around and use it to create success.

Ask yourself these questions:

1) If I keep doing this, what’s the worst that could happen?
2) If that did happen, what’s the worst feeling I’d have?
Then 3) feel that feeling until it goes away.

Often, the feared feeling only lasts a few moments, particularly as we come to realize we can actually cope with it.

As Eleanor Roosevelt said: You must do the things you think you cannot do.

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