I’m in the middle of planning my wedding – and if this isn’t a lesson in compromise, I don’t know what is!
Well, let me restate that. I don’t actually like the word ‘compromise’. To me, and many others, to compromise is to give up something to appease a situation.
This is why many people tenaciously hold on to their position in conversation or debate. In their head, they hear ‘if I compromise on this, then I’m losing’. To them, conceding is weak.
Instead of compromising, I view my conversations with my fiancé and family as being a creation, not a loss. There are very few details that I’m not open to discuss. While there are a couple of things I feel must happen on the day, everything else is available to create with others. So there really is no way I can “lose”.
Action – How do you interpret the word ‘compromise’ for yourself? Do you see it as a negative or positive? Have you had situations that you’ve compromised on that at first were positive then turned negative? Or vice versa?
Knowing your own internal dictionary for words and concepts helps you to understand yourself even more. Your reality is your responses.